The Power of The Dream State...

“Mom, you woke me up when you hugged me last night,” stated my 6 year-old son at breakfast, as I was retelling a vivid dream I’d had the night before. Due to the shocking nature of his comment, I responded, “Wow, we were both hugging Dad last night!”

My late husband had been in the hospital in a coma the previous 7 days. When we arrived home we brought with us a house full of people. Therefore, our usual calm home environment was now chaotic, filled with grieving relatives and young children who were not in familiar surroundings.

My son had chosen to sleep in my bed, the first night home from the hospital. We’d left my husband’s life-giving body at the hospital, 80 miles away, in the hands of the procurement doctors and nurses.

The previous 7 days had been spent battling a snowstorm, waiting for relatives to arrive at the hospital to say their goodbyes, making decisions about organ donation and funeral plans, and trying to honor everyone’s wishes and desires, in regards to my husband’s final days.

Finally, I was home, in my own bed, missing my husband. As I fell asleep I remember thinking about how beautiful and comforting it would be to dream about my husband. I’d heard stories of deceased loved ones coming to visit in dreams, shortly after they died. Approximately, 5 hours prior to bedtime, I’d said goodbye to my love, in a hospital operating room, as his defibrillator and pacemaker were quieted.

My hopes were realized as I met Jim in my dream that night! The loving feelings I felt when we held each other were intensely vivid and amazingly comforting. We’d held each other for what seemed like hours. Upon waking, I felt a sense of serenity, peace, and happiness… feelings I didn’t think I’d experience again for a very long time.

Initially, the shock of my son’s statement made me question the reality of my dream. But in a split second, after hearing my son declare that I’d woken him up when I hugged him, I got the message in my head that my son was the physical connection needed to make this dream feel as real as it had. This was the first of many comforting encounters I had with my husband after he died.

Blessings Embraced:

• Holding my deceased husband in my dream state was a comforting blessing

• Amazing acts take place when one is open to the possibilities

Affirmation: I believe healing can take place through a variety of experiences.